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Yep - I'm still around

2009-08-20T22:28:00.002+10:00

Now, I know no one ever reads this thing - yet here I am, making another post (mainly because I just remembered to dig this thing up). Between Facebook and twitter, I feel like I've got too much to update - so naturally, things tend to fall by the wayside.

Been a while since my last update, anyway - and the sad thing is, not much has really happened in that time. I'm still working the same job, still enjoying it (most of the time). I still get times when I want to really let loose and yell at someone / something.

Apart from work, I've not been doing much else, which is pretty boring really. I might try and keep this more updated from now on (which means remembering to login to make updates). We'll see how long that lasts :)

...and the rest will follow

2008-10-13T18:55:00.002+11:00

as the name suggests, this is about my next update (and not about a CD with the same name :p).

Anyway, the final thing I left off of my list of 'major updates' last time was the fact that I know have full-time employment - in fact, I started today (OK, so this just shows how not up-to-date this 'update' is). It seems like a pretty good gig - developing websites and stuff, it's all pretty fun and it looks as though everything is going to be getting a lot busier, which will be good, as there wasn't a heap that I could actually do today, anyway. So remember kids, you heard it all here, first ;).

In other news - I've taken to playing PC games again - currently going through Spore (stacks of fun, this one), and I'm going through Assassin's Creed for a second time...or is it third...either way it's still pretty awesome. I'm awaiting the release of Farcry 2 - which, thankfully, is only a couple of weeks away :D :D. I've got the collectors edition on pre-order at EB Games (I know, I usually refuse to shop here, too - but it surprised me that they worked out pretty much the same cost as everywhere else - even a little cheaper than most places when you pre-order and get $10 off, too).

Oh, and I've manage to order my transcript from Curtin - which I expect to arrive later this week - so it looks as though my degree is still on track for completion - woo hoo! :)

Back from the dead!!

2008-10-01T13:36:00.002+10:00

Well, it seems forever since I last blogged - and it certainly has been a while. I'd like to say I had a really good reason for the sudden stop - like the loss of a limb, or other general busyness - but, no such luck. So, here's a general update for anyone who is interested, or those that aren't so much interested, as they are bored.

I finally finished uni late this year- after failing a subject in the last semester of last year (The only subject I failed, and it falls in the only place where it can't be picked up again!!!). So, after that news, I enrolled in a subject at Curtin uni in Perth - which was conducted online. The results for that subject have not long been released, but the good news is that I did manage to pass it!!

The only thing now before I can actually get my hands on the degree is to wait for an academic transcript to be available from Curtin (6 or so weeks, apparently) then show this to LaTrobe so they can credit my course.

To fill in some time, I've also been doing volunteer work at Victory Christian College teaching some computer programming workshops one lunchtime a week - which is completely odd because my degree went no where near 'teaching'. It was all really fun, but because I came in half way through a term, I only got about 5 weeks of lessons in - which I think the kids enjoyed, even if they weren't always well behaved ;).

That's most of my major updates for now - there will be more on the way....hopefully this time, I'll actually get around to posting it in a timely manner.

So yes, I'm still alive, still running a teeny business (which is still fun, so that's good), and I'm still listening to way too much music!

Another semester

2007-07-13T13:56:00.000+10:00

Got my uni results today - I've passed all my subjects for this semester, so I get to go onto my next and final semester. I guess someone doesn't want me to be there any longer than I have to :).

Just had to break my own blogging drought - I've been having trouble thinking of stuff to write, so hopefully I come up with something soon enough.

The Fat Controller

2007-04-19T21:26:00.000+10:00

There's a fine line between 'in control' and 'control freak'. Whilst some control is important, there are those things which can't be controlled, shouldn't be controlled, should be controlled or those things where it simply doesn't matter.

Relational control creates a kind of "master-slave" relationship. This, for [hopefully] obvious reasons isn't good, as it won't strengthen anything, rather it will deteriorate over prolonged periods of time. I think it's put best in the following lyrics from one of my favourite songs:

"I'm only caring enough to love oppressors for so long..." Dead Poetic - Self Destruct & Die

You can accept someone's control over you but there's going to come a time where you're really going to want to go against this, and you'll break.

With control, there are a few things to remember: someone can offer you their advice - but they cannot make you listen. They can list the pros and cons - But they cannot force the descision. You should listen, and you should weigh up to the pros and cons, but don't let someone else's objective change the direction you're heading in. Make the decision for yourself.

There are times when people need to pave their road in life with their own decisions, and reject walking to someone else's destination. Carve your own way through the terrain, do the work yourself. Wake up and think for yourself. It'll be harder, but at least you won't be living a fallacy.

It's easy to be a puppet. There isn't any thinking involved. It requires a high level of complacency, and in some ways, a need for peace (To stand up against those whom hold control will create conflict). Your choices dictate whether or not people can pull your strings, just as easily as your choices can sever them.

There are also things that require control within our own lives, and it can take ourselves (or others) being completely honest with us and revealing our weaknesses. These are the things which require control. We need to be able to keep ourselves from falling apart - but thankfully, we don't have to do that on our own. That's when we should call on our friends or family to support us while we sort things out.

Then there are the things which really don't matter. Things like what colour socks you'll wear today. Trivial, I know :P. Although, I'm sure there's someone who tries to control what colour socks they wear. They're weird.

Now, there is obviously an exception to this controlling rule, and that is God. His control of your life will take you exactly where you need to be, where you want to be.

Until next time! (Which could be a while, judging by the gap between my last blog and this one, and the fact that this was a really old, partially completed draft until I finally decided to finish it today).

It's All Relative - Drop the bags

2007-03-26T19:45:00.000+10:00

Another relational blog. It seems that I focus a lot on these. That's probably because it's one thing that a lot of people screw up.

This time I'm talking about 'baggage' that people carry from one relationship or experience to the next. Doing this has a tendancy to taint any further relationship (dating or otherwise), and can also change the way you react to certain situations.

It's necessary to deal with any baggage before entering any relationship, anything that might distract, or blind you from seeing past what it is you want and into what it is you need. To see your real reasons for it all.

We need to be able to care for yourself before we can care for others - just as we need to be able to love ourselves, so that we can both be loved by others and love others. It seems today, there are a lot of people who ignore these two things and find their relationships crumbling along with the fragile foundation they built them on.

Then there is the baggage that comes from an event playing out, and some of this we need to let go of (particularly if it's have a negative effect on us), and some we need to hang onto. The stuff we let go of, we should first learn from - like touching an electric fence for the first time. We don't dwell on the experience, but when we take the lesson with us and next time we encounter another fence, we approach it with caution.

We can take these experiences and learn from them, and try something different next time until we find something that succeeds. Some other baggage we need to drop off before entering another relationship - more often that not, you'll end up having to deal with your own, baggage, but with the other persons too.

Anyway, that's probably enough writing for this week. Feel free to comment if you have something add, or feel I have left something out (and I probably have).

Lost!

2007-03-05T17:30:00.000+11:00

If we fear losing something, did we ever really 'have' it?

If we do 'lose' something, is it really lost? - everything lost can be found if enough time and dedication is given to the search. I wonder how many times we truly lose things, as opposed to giving up on the search.

What makes us give up? It might be too much negativity from those around you. People saying things like "Face it, it's gone" or "It's not coming back". Exposed enough to such negativity we can be forced to believe that this is the truth. We take action as though those around us have the power to determine the outcomes.

Perhaps the search exhausts us too much, or what was lost wasn't important, or can be re-acquired through purchasing something, or some other means. In these cases, perhaps it is best we don't dwell on what was lost, rather than try everything in order to re-obtain whatever it was.

When I started this blog, I was specifically talking about those things in life that we simply can't afford to 'lose'. Friendships and other relationships are a prime example of this. Too often you see 2 great friends enter a dating relationship - and then after a while breaking up, shattering their friendships with neither party willing to turn around, pick up the pieces and re-assemble them. Perhaps from a fear that they will get cut.

When you see these scenarios played out, you have to realise that this has nothing to do with personalities - rather with each others pride. Some connection obviously existed (or they would never have been friends, let alone dated), maybe they believe that connection is severed when a trust is betrayed, or an imperfection found.

I think that this connection can be re-established and friendship rebuilt if both parties are willing to let go and come to terms with each others differences.

Anyway, that's my rant for another week!

McWrecked

2007-03-05T16:52:00.000+11:00

I have decided that me and a McDonalds happy meal don't mix - well at least me and the toys don't.

Saturday night a bunch of us went to maccas before heading up to the cinemas to see 'Man of the Year'. A couple of people ordered happy meals, with which they also recieved a 'Courage the Cowardly Dog' plush - which when it's ears were pulled would shiver.

I wasn't sure what the dog was cowering from. It seems though, that his fears were not unjustified. I shall let the pictures tell the rest of this sad, sad tale of our quest to obtain the 'vibrating thing'.

Another blog

2007-02-02T15:16:00.000+11:00

I have created another blog for my business. If anyone is interested it can be found here:

http://switchedtech.blogspot.com/

This is a 'private' blog so is inaccessible through my profile.

It's All Relative Part V - Honesty and Openness

2007-01-28T16:40:00.000+11:00

Honesty is really important within relationships - it helps build them stronger. Helps us to grow closer, and builds up trust between people. Without it, the relationship becomes like a sandcastle built with dry sand - it has nothing to hold it up and will soon dissolve into nothing, making it an indistinguishable heap amongst a million others.

But, there is a difference between openness and honesty. To me, openness is all about revealing yourself to the other person, perhaps without specific reason or prompting.

Honesty is all about telling the truth, this might be after being asked about something specific, or it may not.

These two things can be quite closely related - in that you can be honest about what you are open with, or vice versa.

With openness in a relationship, I'm not saying that you should spill your guts to someone you've only just met, or have just started dating. There is a time and place to tell some things, and if you wait, these two will align, allowing you both to deal with it appropriately.

Issues should arise as a natural progression of relationships, as things get more serious, it is necessary to be sure of the choices you have made and whether the relationship really is for you or not - whether your other half is able to accept you for who you are and what you may have done.

It's important to be honest, as honesty will build our trustworthiness and will ultimately strengthen our relationships. It can take forever to build up trust, but only a hint of dishonesty will leave it in ruins.

Build it up and retain it, strengthen your relationships.

Finishing

2006-12-19T13:37:00.000+11:00

"Never start something that you can't finish" - I'm sure that's a familar saying to most. But, is it the reason why many people always stick with the small things, never attempting something great?

Do people only start small, easy tasks knowing that they are fully capable of finishing them?

While it is important to finish what you start, I don't think that you should just do a series of simple, trivial tasks in order to accomplish that. There's no challenge in that, no sense of achievement. Rather, I think it's best to take on larger tasks amongst these smaller tasks. These 'larger' tasks will call us to challenge ourselves in some way - perhaps to stretch our knowledge, improve our relationships, help other people. Whatever.

These tasks should encourage learning and growth. This encouragement will allow us to grow and develop through whatever tasks we decide to undertake, a way to keep ourselves fresh. Through this we learn new things, met new people, overcome new challenges, etc. This gives our lives a bit of variety, something refreshingly different.

In the end, it's these 'larger' tasks which can make us a better person, help us grow into what we need and want to be. These tasks have the ability to radically change and alter our own lives and the lives of others.

Success

2006-12-14T20:55:00.000+11:00

One dictionary defines it as "the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like."

I think the idea of success though, varies from person to person. Whilst on persons success might be wealth - another persons success might be to have great relationships with their family. Whilst the second one doesn't strictly adhere to the above definition of success, it can still make someone 'successful'.

Today, most people when thinking about success automatically see dollar signs. Furthermore, if we were asked to name successful people - I'm sure that most people would be naming those who have gained major monetary wealth, such as Bill Gates and Donald Trump. Don't get me wrong, these guys are successes in their own right, but there are less noticable 'smaller' successful people.

Another dictionary definition is "The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted".

I like that one the best. To me, success isn't about who's got the most money, or who's stepped on the most people to reach the top of the corporate ladder. Success is much more than that, it is individually defined. Ones success can be as unique as your personality. Whether you define it as always getting up with a smile, or simply being the best you can be. So longs you can achieve that, you will be a success.

You cannot be a success if you don't at least try to achieve the thing you define success as. Trying is what is all about. Some people refuse to try for fear of failing, for fear of falling, being ridiculed, etc.

In the end, if you don't take the risk with your success, then you won't achieve it. If you let the fear get in the way, and refuse to move, then you lose out.

Anyway, that's enough of a rant from me. Feel free to agree or disagree. Discuss it if you feel you want to. Whatever.

Yet Another Update

2006-12-02T18:43:00.000+11:00

This might become a regular feature here - it sure beats emailing everyone; and I know that only important people read this blog ;-)

Anyway, heard from the accountant earlier this week. He's ready for me to setup a company and had set aside a time for me to meet with him and get it started. All I needed to do was confirm, which I did. So, this Tuesday, the 5th of December @ 1.30pm I will be going in for a visit, and he reckons that the company will have started by the next day. I think then, it's a 1 or 2 week wait, or thereabouts before I get an ABN and am able to start trading.

So, I've been busy working things out, and have yet more questions to ask. Should be an exciting, yet huge learning curve.

Anyway stay tuned and continue to watch this space

Will try and get another update later on in the week.

Stunted by Tradition

2006-11-20T19:35:00.000+11:00

Tradition...I can understand a need for it, to an extent, but do we really need so much of it?

Will our tendancy to cling to the past leave us in it? Will we get left behind and alone once the dust settles? Will we be left wondering where everyone went?

People (and churches) can often find themselves clinging hopelessly to something they have always done. Refusing to let go. Perhaps they refuse because removing this thing might nullify some solidarity from their lives. Perhaps they simply got all too comfortable, got too familiar with the routine.

Surely walking around today with your head stuck in yesterday isn't good for anyone? What worked last year may not be applicable this year, things change too rapidly to remain rigid. We need to be more flexible. We need to be flexible, yet unbreakable. We need some tradition, but to live entirely immersed in it will only lead to our demise, our eventual extinction. We need to adapt with the times, perhaps compromising some of the old in order to survive tomorrow.

In order to change, we need to accept the new, perhaps not all of it, but certainly elements of it, and enough so that it makes a substantial difference. Standing still we grow stagnant, but keep the flow and we remain fresh. Keeping fresh is important, not only to us, but to those around us. We'd have a hard time communicating and interacting with others if we never changed. Refusing change can also lead to a lot of arguments, with neither side giving in. And, in doing this, you become ignorant, refusing also to learn something. Believing that you are always right, that your opinion is the only relevant one.

Will you adapt enough to cling on, or will you leave the past behind and take a risk with the here and now? Will you change at all?

An Update

2006-11-14T18:53:00.000+11:00

This is just an update on things that have bee happening, which some of you may or may not already know about.

I had the last of my uni exams today. So, that's all over for another year. I get some more time to spend at the computer :-P.

Some of you probably know that I visited an accountant last weekend. The idea of this was to get some ideas about starting a business or a company. The visit was really good, and it confirmed some things for me, and it looks as though I will be starting a company sometime in the near future.

I still have a lot of work to do regards a business, but most of that will happen after the ball has started rolling, so to speak. I already have names and logos produced, and have started building a website. I will be looking into some other businessy things during these holidays, as well as sourcing wholesalers etc. Could be a busy holiday for me.

Anyway, that's an update for the last few weeks.

No more study :) :)

Ignorance & Immaturity

2006-10-30T18:56:00.000+11:00

Another day, another post.

The title pretty much gives away the content of this one.

Fairly recent thoughts, events, and other random things have lead me to think about these two things. Sometimes both of these attributes are found in a person, sometimes just one.

The trouble with these is that, if you were to tell anyone that they portrayed either attribute, both of them would prevent them from seeing it. If that made sense, you're off to a good start :-).

Both of these things will hold you back, prevent you from moving forward. For obvious reasons, this isn't a good place to be. We can't grow if we can't step out and start moving. We cam take some responsibility for our future and choose to grow past such issues, to develop and learn from them. We can choose to move forward, or stand still, slowly slipping backwards, towards destruction.

They will also produce conflict with others, more often than not. This conflict can make you react to situations in a less than desirable manner. You might decide to run from the conflict, choosing to isolate yourself from the very thing that seemed to trigger it. You can't run from yourself, and ultimately that's where the problem lies, that's what triggered the conflict. No use running, because the problem still exists and it can come out at any moment.

These attributes can also taint our relationships with others, slowly detoriating them. It can be hard to try and build a relationship with such people unless you are like minded - sharing the same attributes that make it hard for others.

People who refuse to acknowledge and accept the problems they face, end up doing more harm than good. They create tension and conflict between their friends and also run the risk of becoming 'stagnant' in their own life.

Thats my 2c for this week. Make of it what you will :).

Famousness

2006-10-24T22:08:00.000+10:00

Ever heard the line "I know <insert well-known person here>"?

Of course you have! We may have even used it once or twice.

I don't know about others, but I don't want to say that too often. I want to be the person that others 'know'. I want to be worthy enough to be spoken well about when I am not around, to be respected when I'm not there, and defended when I am unable to be there to defend myself.

Why do we say things like this? Does it somehow build our own societal status? Or is it simply to make us look better? I don't know. What I do know, is that it's not for our own benefit. We don't need to tell ourselves it.

Half the time, we don't even know the person, but we act as if we were best friends with them. We talk of them as if we have known them for years. We defend them even though we don't know the full story. We can even get upset when someone says something against them. What drives us to this? Are we happy to adopt someone else's greatness in order to mask our own mediocrity, our own inadequacies?

Are we trying to stand on a platform of someones fame just so we can look down on others? Or do we like the view from there? I don't know...

It's All Relative Part IV - Compliance and Compromise

2006-10-10T21:38:00.000+10:00

Yet another installment.

As the title suggests, this blog will cover the topic of compliance and compromise within relationships.

There is a difference between these two things. Compliance is conforming, moulding to the situation, and compromise is reaching an understanding where both parties sacrifice something, but not everything.

There are a few relationships I see where there is a lot of compliance, where terms and descisions are dictated by the other person. There needs to be some compromise in all relationships. As said in previous posts, on-sided relationships just don't work.

A relationship where all the terms are dictated by one person will eventually lead to a relationship which only benefits one person - the 'dictator' (Not the facist kind ;-)). This won't work, and will leave the other person depleted and drained.

Whilst we might feel the need for a relationship, this shouldn't come at any cost. We shouldn't have to put up with a sub-standard relationship, simply because we feel a need. If we are hungry, we don't just go and eat plastic, we like to eat something real - something tangible. I think there are people who need to put this into practice with their relationships too. Just like eating plastic, if we don't feed on a real relationship, and we keep putting our energy into something fake - we won't get anything that will benefit us. Ultimately, we need to create a situation where both people can benefit equally.

In the end, sacrificing a little of something in order for both parties to be happy is better than letting the other person walk all over you and dictate the direction everything heads in

Apparitions of Melody

2006-10-09T12:34:00.000+10:00

A song called 'Apparitions of Melody' by 'Kids in The Way' starts off like this:

"Can you feel the beat of a thousand marching feet searching for a passion in a lifeless, dead-end street"

This can be used to describe some people today. Putting themselves behind boundaries that create a lifeless, dead-end street. Where passion isn't obvious - you might have to search to find it. If people have a passion (and most do), it should be obvious - you shouldn't have to search. You should 'ooze' your passion and infect others with it.

This statement can also, to an extent, be used to describe some churches today. Churches that are lifeless. The picture of a dead-end street not only paints a picture of going nowhere, but also that there is a way to get in - but to get out again, you'll have to backtrack.

Sometimes, it can be hard to even find passion within the church, sometimes people are too focused on what they want, and what they can get from it. Rarely do people stop and ask: "In what way can I contribute?".

We get too focused on ourselves, that we can't work effectively as a team. We start sliding backwards - perpetually, until something changes. Until someone changes.

Will that someone be you?

Mediocrity

2006-09-18T18:49:00.000+10:00

Time and time again, I meet people who accept mediocrity - and don't strive for anything more. People who like to sit back and watch others, people who try and get a 'free ride' on someone else's success.

Perhaps people are afraid of success, maybe they fear the risk involved in taking a chance, in the uncertainty. Perhaps they are just happy and comfortable where they are. I'm not sure.

I don't believe that we should have to put up with mediocrity. I see it that a lot of people don't recognise mediocrity in their lives, simply because they don't look - After all, what's the point in looking if you're happy where you're at? This just adds to an already growing complacency.

People are so focused on what's 'not possible', that they don't to see what is. When we think of doing something, we can easily dish out the negative side, the consequences. We essentially scare ourselves into laziness. Our thought pattern quite often leads only to inaction. If we were to act on the things we think about, the things that remove mediocrity, then surely the benefits vastly outweigh the possible consequences.

In a way, I guess I'm saying, that lot of people will be more than happy to put up with mediocrity in their lives - and not bother to change it, simply because they are comfortable. This comfortability, in turn, leads to an increase in our complacency. Not a good place to be.

The greatest results often come from those choices with the greatest risk.

It's All Relative Part III

2006-09-11T18:52:00.000+10:00

Part 3 of the relationship blogs is here.

This time it's about trust.

Every relationship requires a level of trust. After all, if we can't trust those who we let close to us - why would we let them become as close as they have? Trust is key to a successful and healthy relationship.

For a relationship to be truly successful, as part of the foundation, there needs to exist trust. You need to be able to trust the other person completely. To trust completely requires you to step out, to take a risk - maybe even sacrifice.

With trust comes a level of honesty, these two things go hand in hand. Honesty helps build our trustworthiness. Trust in a relationship will certainly help it to grow into something more, something better. Again, as with all this relational stuff, it works best if it's reciprocated by the other person. That you can trust, and be trusted. You may need to step up, or own up to things you ordinarily wouldn't. It might make you feel uncomfortable - but we can't always live in our comfort zones.

If we were to always live where we were comfortable, we wouldn't really progress, we wouldn't reach better things. So, there are times when we need to get out of our comfort zone - this in itself is a sacrifice. Relationships are full of sacrifice and compromise; in an ideal situation, this too is done equally.

Relationships are like living organisms - to function properly, and to their best abilities, they must be properly cared for in every way, they need to be balanced. They also need to be feed to grow, they need to provide a caring and sharing environment to both persons.

In closing I would like to say that, in order for a relationship to grow into something, there needs to exist trust and honesty. Without these elements, there isn't much of a relationship existing.

Anyway, they are my thoughts for now. If you want to add, discuss, or comment - feel free to do so.

MMMmmm Fallacious

2006-09-06T21:47:00.000+10:00

"People are happier to accept a comfortable fallacy than change to accomodate the truth"

I came up with this thought the other day, and since then have been realising the truth of it.

Changes are sometimes uncomfortable, but change is necessary - if there were absolutely no change we'd still be infants. Unfortunately some of us reject the good changes, and accept bad changes, and some of us even reject most changes - irrespective of the effect.

What I think is even more unfortunate, is the people who grow up, but never really mature. They refuse the change, they reject truth and they end up living a fallacy. They believe they are right, and often their opinion on this matter can't be swayed, no matter how much proof you present to them.

People ARE happier living a fallacy if it makes them more comfortable, people like being comfortable - it's sort of burnt in to us. I know I can get stuck in the trap of wanting to be comfortable all the time, to not want to step out and try something, to sit back and say "It's alright, some else will do it".

Theres nothing wrong with a little comfortability, we all need some sort of familarity - but too much will create a resistance to change. Something we want to avoid. We want change, we want thing to be different, but we don't want to change to do it. Kind of seems non-sensical, but its quite true.

If we want to see a difference, we either have to create it ourselves, or help others create it.

It's All Relative Part II

2006-09-05T11:46:00.000+10:00

Part 2 is here, and it's all about wants and needs.

We often get these two confused, and sometimes even weight them with the same meaning.

It's well known that it isn't good to be alone. We NEED relationships, often we get confused and mix the need for a relationship with who we WANT to be with.

We might want to be with the most popular girl or the cutest guy. But, who we need might be something completely different - they might be a garbage collector (no offence intended), or the girl that everyone picks on.

The problem with many relationships is that people base them on what the other looks like. That, they believe they need to have the best looking partner to have a successful relationship. The problem with this, like it or not, looks will fade with time - does this then mean that so to your feelings for them fade? Could this be part of the problem? It certainly isn't part of the solution!

I think we often find that wants and needs are hard to distinguish, simply because we are biased. I think they can become even harder to distinguish in a relational sense, because we often fall into the trap of 'letting our heart rule our head'. We often go by what we 'feel' is right, without truly thinking about the possible outcomes, without thinking about the other person. Quite often, there is little or no reasoning behind our choices.

I also believe that we can get confused when we see people getting their needs fulfilled in a relationship, and then frantically start searching for someone who can fulfill ours. There can be problems associated with this, as it can be quite selfish. Whilst someone might be able to satisfy your needs, you mightn't be able to satisfy theirs, again, creating a very one-way relationship - not good.

I'll leave you guys with this. There is a difference between a want and a need; but it is up to us to realise it.

If you have any questions or comments feel free to leave them here.

God's Job Interview

2006-08-28T19:34:00.000+10:00

Life can be loosely described as 'God's Job Interview'. The application process is simple and success is assured.

It's during the interview when people find out whether they have the determination to be a 'full time employee'. God will test us to find our suitability, he never gives us more than we can handle, will never lead us astray or send us to complete trivial tasks (Although it may seem like it at times).

At the end of the interview we become 'full-time employees'(provided you remained with it until the end). It's then we are rewarded - even though we know we don't deserve it - we know that during the interview there were times we questioned management and sent up our complaints about the conditions. We know there were times we stuffed up, tripped up and fell over. There were times we thought we'd failed, where we thought we'd be fired.

Thankfully, when we admitted these mistakes and shortcomings to management, they turned a blind eye to it and forgot it even happened.

Anyway...thats enough of that analogy. :)

It's All Relative Part I

2006-08-23T20:13:00.000+10:00

Recent events, discussions and observations have lead me to ask questions (Mostly about relationships), I plan to answer some of these in this blog (as well as raise my own). Other questions are planned to be appear in other blogs (If I get around to it).

Q: Can you only 'like' someone, and still date them?

This question arose through discussion with a friend, and most of this has probably been written before - albeit on another bloggers page.

Answer: Yes, you can 'go out' with someone and only 'like' them; but really - whats the point?

Take this for example: you have a fruit tree in your garden, and you pick the fruit knowing full well that you won't eat it, because its not your favourite fruit - why plant that particular tree in the first place? Wouldn't you be much happier with a fruit you could enjoy?

To me, there doesn't seem to be a point in creating a relationship with someone knowing before hand that there isn't anything solid to base it on. A relationship based on a liking is quite literally a waste of time, both yours and theirs.

Sometimes I question why people choose to have the relationships they have (Perhaps not vocally, but I do think about it). I come up with the usual questions, "Did they feel so alone?", "Did they feel pressured?", "Do they really love that person?", "Did they see what someone else had, and wanted it themselves?" or "Did they feel incomplete". If I can answer yes to any questions that don't involve love, I immediately remember a quote I came up with a while ago - it goes like: "Who you're with does not define who you are".

To me, if the relationship is just to make yourself feel whole, if its just to have gain on your part; then don't bother with it. Relationships are supposed to be equal, both with giving and taking. They weren't meant to be one way.

I know there will be people who don't agree with this, so feel free to raise your voice in a comment, I will take your opinion on board and think about it. Also, if there are questions you want to bring up, do, so we can discuss them here. I'll leave you with another one of my quotes.

'Love is the only emotion which requires you to think about someone else before, and more than yourself'

Again...thats my 2c worth not sure if it was value for money this time either...

onomatopoeia

2006-08-20T18:57:00.000+10:00

onomatopoeia

Fear This

2006-08-12T17:32:00.000+10:00

Blog #2

Seems this has been updated sooner than I originally thought it would've been.

Blog number 2 its all about fear

Fear is an interesting thing, some people have it, others wield it and others still manipulate it. Fear is a powerful feeling, and we know it, we've all felt it. We know what it can make people do, what it will drive them to.

People react to fear in different ways, they run, they lose all ability to act, they fall in a heap emotionally. So, what is it about fear that makes us react to it? Is it a fear of not knowing, a fear of rejection? It doesn't matter - people react similarly to the situation, and every time they face it they tend to react the same way. As a slight digression, I once heard a definition of insanity: "Insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over again and expecting different results". It's the same with fear, if we always react the same way - why do we expect things to be different next time? It's insanity.

I've also heard that the largest fear experienced today is a fear of the unknown, that feeling of uncertainty, a fear that can stop someone from stepping out and taking a chance - a fear thats blinding. I've recently come to the opinion that to fear something you don't know is quite silly. I mean, how can you fear something you can't see nor touch, something that you don't know what affect it has? I think this fear is conjured up by our mind in an effort to visualise the very worst case scenarios in a given situation. And, often our minds go a little too far (as they always do), and then we start believing that this scenario will actually play out if we make that descision - when in actual fact, it's probably got a very small chance, if not impossible chance of occuring.

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure." - Nelson Mandela, Inaugural Speech - 1994

Anyway, thats my 2c worth - value for money? I'm not sure...

Blog

2006-08-08T20:39:00.000+10:00

Well, here it is - my blog! Not much here, not sure what to write, or who'll even read it.

If you're ever bored come by, who knows - it might get updated every once and a while.

I feel like chasing an elephant on a pogo stick....